My wisdom should certainly be questioned, but in poker, each time you lose, if you double your bet, the time you win, you get back everything! This is NOT ADVICE...it is something my brother, Dan, once told me that I think about when I face APPARENT defeat!While many believe that it was "Bear" Bryant of the University of Alabama who said "When the going gets tough, the tough get going"...it was actually Joseph P. Kennedy (1888-1969), US politician, businessman, father of President John F. Kennedy who is first on record to say this phrase. I am filled with such contradictions that serve me well. On the one hand, the older I get, the less I enjoy competitive sports (one winner, everybody else loses) and on the other hand, I do think every living organism has to "compete" to be successful in its niche.
But here is the great lie: ALL resources are truly limited. Not true. There are limitless resources that can nourish us all the days of our lives, and that can at the same time, enrich the lives of others. I am not referring to natural or material resources..but spiritual and/or emotional resources. There is absolutely more than enough HAPPINESS for every one. That does not mean we do not have to spend any effort to obtain or enjoy this. Quite the opposite. The simplest statements of what one must do include "Just think positive" and"believe in your true self" or as Lady Gaga puts it:
I'm beautiful in my way
'Cause G-d makes no mistakes
I'm on the right track baby
I was born this way
Don't hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you're set
I'm on the right track baby
I was born this way.
These are great advice. But they do not explain that YOU have to get YOURSELF there, no one else can DO IT for you. And you have to start with what ever "hand" you are dealt (back to my initial poker analogy). It is not easy. And the more stacked against you, the harder you have to work, to fight, to be determined that you will get yourself to that place, where you live your dreams, accept and love yourself, and have your own house in order. I wish I understood why one person "gives up" and another, no matter how unhappy, just keeps re-doubling the effort to find the missing happiness, having faith that there is plenty out there and some way to get to it!
None of us know our potential. We only discover it by trying our best, our hardest, against any and all odds, by going beyond what seems possible and believing in what seems impossible. By never quitting. Even a pessimist can be happy if s/he wants to be happy! This is my journey. I know that my friends and family...may be surprised that I am writing these words. They have all known me when I thought things looked bleak, the future dim, and I had lost my way. What only I know and only I need to know is that I will not EVER be defeated for long. I will never be denied happiness, and will do whatever it takes to face myself, know myself, encounter and engage others and learn from them, and "compete" against my own demons and any bad stuff that happens to me, as long as it takes to find my measure of happiness and live my dreams in love with myself.